Got You

March 26, 2011

I’ve been thinking about dudes, flirting, boundaries, sex and dating.

Here Goes, Weeeeee:

Let’s go ahead and simplify this whole thing.

If a dude wants you he’ll make it happen no matter what. If you show the slightest bit of interest (even if its fleeting) he will zero in on that like a Shark after blood and you will be 100% totally hooked. Dudes are crafty and gutsy like that, if they want it they will say it and make it known. There won’t be any ominous texts to feel out the vibe, counting down the seconds until you text back. NOPE, none of that. A dude will cut the crap and simplify it all – he wants IN and damn the consequences, he’ll figure out the details later.

Women go weak over this because everyone wants to be wanted or at the very least validated. If a dude walks up to you at a party and whispers depraved things in your ear and then casually walks away again, your vision goes blurry and you my friend are a fucking goner.

Every action for the rest of the night is geared towards him. You orientate yourself  around him being able to see you. Even if nothing happens that night, the whole next week you act like he can see you, even when you are alone! Your hair and makeup is perfect and your legs are always shaved.

And by the way, in these circumstances the dude rarely cares how you look, I mean – you have clearly been obsessing to make sure your eye makeup matches your shoes or whatever psychotic thing you’ve chosen to zero in on. He notices, but it’s beyond that point, you already have his attention. All he really cares about at this point is having his body parts inside/on your body parts.

Have fun, and hold on tight!

Jecc xx

His Friend: Yo, I think our boy has a thing for you

Me: (silently jumping up and down and squealing inside my brain) Really? Wow, he’s really good-looking, are you sure?

His Friend: Don’t so be ridiculous, of course he does

Me: OK, ummm, I’m really flattered, we’ll see what happens I guess!

Two hours later…..(and way too much red wine)

Him: You like to kiss a lot don’t you

Me: Yes, ummm why, is it bothering you?

Him: God no, where have you been all my life?

If I hadn’t already been lying down I would have fallen over.

To be honest I couldn’t STOP kissing him if I wanted to, he was honestly the nicest, kindest, most handsome and strapping dude I have ever had the good fortune to kiss. I could not believe my luck! There is something so very powerful about a guy who is so physically….strapping, but who is SO NICE and DECENT! It was the funnest night ever, lots of face holding, kissing, lifting me up, flirting, tickles, spooning and talking.

This guy was like the jackpot!

Ding Ding we have a winner!

I wonder if I’ll see him again…

xx

It’s a Saturday morning and I’m sitting in bed reading blogs, replying to emails and doing general  life administration things.

I have a coffee on my bedside table and the sun is shining.

Saturday morning is my favorite part of the week, the weekend is just beginning, and the two days you have ahead seem, well, endless. Anything could happen, How exciting!

I’m feeling very content these last few days, I did go through an anxious stage with Mr. Argentina, he was acting distant and I was going to let his behavior slide because we are having ‘fun’ and I don’t really know the rules, so I don’t know where I’m allowed to say anything or not. But I thought, NO, I am an adult, I’m just gonna ask him what’s up.

So I asked, he acted like a juvenile child. Denied everything, made me feel like an insane female…fucking HATE that trait in a guy, just OWN your shit man, don’t be passive aggressive, don’t turn it around on me. I was just asking out of concern. When your behavior changes, then it’s pretty obvious something is up! No, I’m not falling in love with you, I am a nice person and I was just concerned, relax dude!

So, I think this thing has run its course, it’s not just fun anymore, it’s getting a little more complicated, which is OK I guess, but not exactly ideal, AND if we keep hanging out the way we have been and acting like we have been (yes we act like a proper couple whenever we are together, and yes, it’s very confusing) then I’m probably gonna start having proper feelings for him, I tried to be distant, compartmentalise my feelings but it’s not that easy! I’m just not wired that way, but that’s OK, I know when enough is enough.

It doesn’t mean that I won’t check my phone every 10 seconds for the next few weeks, or get all whimsical about how much fun I had with him/how well we got along, BUT I do know I will be just fine.

But, nothing ventured nothing gained, You can’t live life locked in a cupboard, You have to just put  yourself out there and hope for the very best.

It is imperative that you do this, do you want to look back at your life and wonder…what if?

HELL TO THE NO!

Lady Jecca xx

  • Don’t be rude to your waiter/waitress, what are you, stupid!? They handle your food.
  • Go for a walk in the rain and jump in puddles, it’s SO fun!
  • Make plans, always have something to look forward to, you might die of boredom otherwise!
  • Say please and thank you
  • Keep in touch with your friends, make the effort
  • Good Sex will cure 90% of your mental issues. For serious.

  • Just because you are kinda seeing someone does not mean your life and responsibilities have to go on the back burner, make it on YOUR terms, yeash, grow a back bone!
  • If you are hooking up with a dude and he tells you from the beginning that’s it’s only fun then he means it, don’t secretly hope that he will fall in love with you. You don’t want to fall in love with the guy who says “this is just fun”
  • Don’t talk about how much money you have, you fucking jerkface! In fact don’t talk about money at all, it’s SO crass.
  • Don’t get into physical fights, it makes you look like an asshole/if you do then you are an asshole!
  • Be open to the possibility that you just might fall in love, c’mon man, don’t be so closed off and scared! Ya big baby. It’s just LOVE, Not like, AIDS or something. You will recover if it all turns to Hell, and if not, there’s always Vodka!
  • It’s not very often that you meet new people who are genuinely great and amazing, people who you just click with – but when you do it will light you up, hold on to that for dear life.
  • Be nice to people
  • Learn to use a knife and fork properly you crazy wild animal!
  • Have sexxx with foreigners, and if you can, get them to talk dirty to you in their native tounge while you do it, it’s the hottest thing EVER, go on! EVERYBODY is doing it. It’s the new black.

Love Jecca xx

Mr. Argentina: Can we Talk?

Me: Um, Sure!

Mr. Argentina: So, about last night, what do you think?

Me: I had a great time

Mr. Argentina: Me too, and I really like you, How do you feel about me?

Me: I really like you too, but it seems a little early to be having this conversation?

Mr. Argentina: I know it is, but I’m traveling at the moment, and I want to be honest with you because I think your really great and I  like you, BUT

Me: Ah, yes, the But….

Mr. Argentina: But….I am traveling and I’m not here for that long I don’t want you to get hurt or anything, so I think it’s best if I’m honest from the beginning.

Me: Well, I appreciate that, but I’ll be fine, thanks for your honesty, but I have my own travel plans!

Mr. Argentina: OK that’s really good, sorry, just wanted to be honest, I really don’t want you to get hurt.

Cue: EPIC MAKE-OUT #2

Knee Buckle

Swoon

Etc

Etc

So, now I’m in the conundrum that I knew was coming, the past 7 months I have been waiting waiting waiting to kiss someone, or have a connection or anything, well, now I’ve had that kiss, that connection and it’s the aftermath and I knew this was going to happen!

The fucking inevitable………

The most predictable……….

I

Can’t

Stop

Thinking

About

Him,

FUCK.

BUT (See! There’s always a But) I always get all whimsical after meeting a dude, even if it’s not serious, and it normally lasts a few days, then the magical power of Dudeness wears off and I can see clearly again….it’s just waiting for the clarity to come back that’s bothering me! EVERY time my phone goes, I think It’s him, and it NEVER is….Lordy this is frustrating!

But my sensibilities will come back soon, I think I’m just basking in the aftermath of severe dude attention overload from last week.

Wish Brandon was MY dude!

So, I’m focussing on thinking like a Dude, it’s kinda fun/hard at the same, although a dude friend told me yesterday that it’s the thinking like a female that makes us so attractive to dudes.

Great…either way I’m totally fucked.

xx

Beso!

April 25, 2010

Spanish for “Kiss”

Because one day you are just going about minding your own business then you have three EPIC Argentinian make-out sessions in a  matter of days. And maybe one goes a little further, and the dry spell is broken and you have that spring in your step. And all is right with the world again.

Cannot stop smiling, my mind is very much preoccupied with all things Latin American, especially the gorgeous men I have met in the last few weeks, my god, these men are gorgeous, affectionate, passionate and kind, That’s quadrouple Swoonage right there! They might also whisper nice things to you in Spanish in the dark, Cue: Knee Buckle.

xx