Skipping Days

September 4, 2011

It’s been awhile…

I’ve been living my life offline these last weeks. Things are busy and moving forward, and I also turn 27 on Tuesday, so I’m kinda hiding from that reality.

Here are some thoughts/light bulb moments from the past few weeks that have come from interesting conversations and people observing.

  • It’s about quality NOT quantity – this applies to everything, including hook-ups.
  • Stop saying no – get off the couch
  • Talk to everyone, and most importantly, LISTEN!
  • Make sure your eyebrows are always perfect…they frame your beautiful face!
  • Don’t jump to conclusions – wait until you hear first hand
  • If your electronic self is better than your real life self you should work on that.
  • Everyone deserves a few chances, stop being such a hard-arse!
  • No matter what your age is, your Mother has the ability to make you feel like a 7-year-old who got caught with their hand in the cookie jar.
  • A little bit of modesty goes a very long way
  • Dylan Moran is the most hilarious comedian – watch some of his stuff.
  • Yes, I know, it’s September – I’m just as surprised as you are!
  • That feeling, when you are kissing and you realize you’ve stopped breathing. Yea THAT. Live for those moments
  • If a friend calls you in a time of need and you don’t pick up the phone/make time for them, your an asshole. Yea, hate yourself.

Jecc xx

Before the Weekend

June 11, 2011

Before you get really settled into your weekend, can I just say…

There is a possibility that this weekend you will run into that dude, you know, the guy who is cool, confident, charming, slightly arrogant, a total babe, picky about who he hooks up with, has been flirting with you, acts unavailable and aloof but makes you feel special at the same time…he has a reputation for being a  manipulative prick and hurting girls.  But you still still want him, you feel like you almost don’t have a choice. You know exactly who I’m talking about. Yes, you do…don’t act coy with me! And I get it, I really really do. Just please, for the sake of your sanity remember that he’s probably gonna lose interest just as you finally let your guard down. It’s just the way he is, and yes…perhaps you will be the one to ‘change’ him, but probably not. You know he’s bad for you, but you still want some of the action, I totally understand. So go for it, keep it light, don’t set your expectations too high.

And if by chance you should fall for him, and you’re really hurting and hating yourself for being so naive, then message me and we’ll talk about it. Because I’ve just gone through it and it’s utter hell, but you will come out the other side just fine, just keep holding on through the dark times.

Ordinary

June 1, 2011

If you think you are failing at the ordinary or the normal don’t worry! There really is no ordinary or normal – everybody is at the very least just a little bit fucked up.

Walk Away

May 10, 2011

Ellen Von Unwerth

  • You always meet the most interesting/coolest people in the smoking section.
  • Jealousy is very very ugly, try to hide it/control it.
  • There is no need to tell someone the negative things others have said about them!
  • Dudes – if you’re crushing on a girl then don’t talk about the others girls you are supposedly texting/hooking up with.
  • Love transcends time, place, age, race and gender – if you feel the electricity then hang onto it!
  • There is a huge difference between bitching about something someone has done and just bitching about someone in general.
  • Release the choker hold or you will drive him/her away!
  • It’s a lovely sentiment, but you can’t save everyone from themselves – you had to learn and so should they. Now turn and walk away.
  • Ever noticed the person who does the chasing normally does the dumping?
  • People are falling in love all the time, don’t feel left out – it’s just the universe weeding out the losers and mis-matches!

Love Jecca xx

A Toast!

May 9, 2011

So, here’s to you! Here’s to you for being terrified but doing this thing called the unknown anyway. This is a much better option than the stagnant alternative.

The Oscars

March 5, 2011

I don’t normally get into the whole ‘Awards Season’ scene, I think it’s all a bit ridiculous really…but I watched some of the Oscars and the highlights for me were:

 

  • Colin Firth’s acceptance speech, what a delightful and charming man!
  • Jeff Bridges (always always)
  • Anne Hathaway’s beautiful dresses
  • The Kings Speech winning big
  • Florence and the Machine, exquisite as always
  • Christian Bale’s acceptance speech
  • Natalie Portman’s acceptance speech and the way she talked about her ‘Love’

X Marks The Spot?

February 26, 2011

Hi darlings!

Well, I’m back in LA and have been for about 2 months now. I’m looking for work and looking to establish a life here, major changes, but it’s great!

I’m on the job hunt and its positive but also getting pretty grueling. I’m all over the show, interviewing, trialling, smiling and selling myself like some awful Willy Loman type (for the record, I’m not a fan of sales people – the ghastly kind anyway)  I’m exhausted. I’ve not slept properly in 2 weeks, I just need to relax, but I stay up until 5am running through every possible scenario in my head until my brain begins to steam! I am so hard on myself it’s unbelievable. I am 100% terrified of making the wrong decision and setting my life on the wrong course, well, I swing between that and trusting the universe and letting the master plan happen organically. Do I sound completely insane to you? Don’t answer that…I know already.

And here’s the really crazy part, one particular job I’ve been trailing for is  close to perfect. Loads of travel, great perks and the financial side is great…but there are a few things that I don’t like and would have to make concessions for, quite big concessions actually, like my LIFE and free time. So now I’m questioning this option too, even though I have been begging the universe for this sort of opportunity. Believe me, I’m not afraid of hard work, and I’m not lazy, I guess I’m just making sure I’ve got every angle figured out.

Also, it’s proving difficult to meet people in LA,  I’m the type who will talk to anyone and love them immediately. I’ll offer my home, my life, my friends, my makeup, my car, whatever it is that will make that person’s life easier/make them feel loved. It just so happens this town isn’t used to that, don’t get me wrong, I’m meeting cool people…but then they are all so busy being cool and pretending to be SO important that the bullshit gets in the way of actually just getting on with the fucking job and having fun! But, in spite of this, I’ll continue to be kind, patient and send out the love, and hope that maybe, hopefully, eventually it will come back, in the form of someone who is genuine and RAD!

Anywho, I’m at a giant crossroads…and I’m feeling like I need a sign or something, and I keep hoping and doing all I can to make this choice but I’m so confused, to the point where my perspective is completely skewed.

Does anyone have any advice or ideas or stories? I could use any help!

Love Jecca xx

You, Yes, You

February 17, 2011

I, with a deeper instinct,
choose a man who compels my strength,
who makes enormous demands on me,
who does not doubt my courage or my toughness,
who does not believe me naive or innocent,
who has the courage to treat me like a woman.
Anaïs Nin

Are you Going To The Show?

February 2, 2011

Last night I did one of my FAVORITE things, I went to a Punk Rock show and saw one of my most favorite bands ever ever – Against Me! and if you are that way inclined then I would check them out – my favorite song by them below

There is nothing quite like the frisson and excitement at a live show, and these guys brought the frisson! They were energetic, fun, loud, great and just…fucking fantastic! I danced my ass off and screamed my lungs out singing. There is nothing quite like the experience of a great band and a great crowd, it’s my spirit, it’s where I feel happiest, it’s where I feel connected and excited! At one point the lead singer Tom Gable said something like “This is the best high, I could stay like this forever” and I couldn’t agree more. Ever notice how after a great show you can barely remember what happened and what songs they played? It’s because you are on some other level of excitement and rapture that you simply cannot recall the exact awesomeness of the show, just embrace that moment while you are lucky enough to have it!

Another great thing about concerts is the cute boy potential, now I happen to like tattoos, piercings and all that, so a punk rock show really is like my mecca for cute boys. And generally I find that these particular boys are modest and unassuming, all the things we love! It’s my personal belief that there is nothing scarier than an arrogant prick, gross and horrid!

Wow, I really digressed there…

Anyways, the point I’m making is, go to a concert! If you LOVE Kenny Rogers then bloody go! There might be heaps of dudes there with white beards who look like Santa, if that’s your vibe then go with it! Say hi, talk to strangers, ask for a lighter, ask for directions, I don’t know, ask if their beard is REAL, do something!

Oh, another brilliant thing about shows is that you often hear other bands too, I heard this band for the first time and I am 100% hooked on them, not to mention the singer has a gorgeous voice and is absolutely beautiful.

This is ‘Girls with Accents’ by Fences:

Swoon

Jecca xx

It’s All Happening

January 28, 2011

  • Bloody Hell! It’s 2011, when did that happen? My head is spinning off!
  • Resolutions? Just be realistic my dears.
  • If you haven’t been to Las Vegas then go, immediately! And invite me!
  • Nothing worth having comes easily (OK, sometimes it does)
  • Remember that there is the exception and the rule. Live by the rule, but always aspire to be the exception!
  • People change. Sometimes it’s great, and sometimes it will kill you.
  • While we are on the topic of resolutions –  If you are going to try a diet, and I am sure you are lovely just the way you are! But IF you are, then I recommend the South Beach diet. It’s tough the first few days, but the change is almost instantaneous, and that is SO encouraging! And if you need support I’m right here, promise!
  • Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.
  • Dog parks – totally new experience for me, a great place for meeting cute boys/men. But beware, they are usually OBSESSED with their dogs. Ugh
  • Get rid of the pens that make your handwriting look ugly.
  • If you are a guest, don’t show up empty handed, and offer to help.
  • If you are having a shitty day, go to the nearest Anthrolpologie store and all will be well again, it’s so magic and swooney! You might find a nice new pen there.
  • Focus on the love – send it out, be open to it, make people feel loved, love yourself.
  • A watched phone will never ring, and a watched inbox will never receive mail.
  • Kiss a cute boy with a lip piercing on New Years Eve on the strip in Las Vegas. Awesome awesome awesome, yes!
  • Write thank you notes and letters, keep it alive people!
  • Keep a notebook with you at all times so you can write down any lightbulb moments throughout your day.
  • Yes Yes, I know you are terrified but please for the love of God take the plunge already! Cut your hair, change you job, take the trip, kiss the babe, say what you think (tactfully and respectfully of course!) make the call, go to the Doctor, paint your toenails, break-up.
  • You are an adult and that means you can do anything you want!